Social and economic conditions are very strong influences, but so is the desire for love. If I remain in my current statistical category, a single black woman, it will be because I missed someone while gazing at the ancient obelisks of Egypt's Karnak Teme, partying with expats in Hong Kong or simy spending time with family and friends in America. The perfect life. The perfect an. It was one I decided to model. My irations for both a career and family were set at the age of 12.